What is it in our nature that eludes us to gossip? And by nature, I talk of women. I know men gossip as well but it is rare how often we see it. Gossip is quite common amongst women and I’m going to add that it is even more common at the work place.
I’ve mentioned in my previous articles that I am an individual that doesn’t like to mix my personal life with my professional life. I consider my professional life a different world and I do not like it to penetrate into my personal world.
As I progressed through my career life, I realized that gossip always was a part of it. It never subdued. I seem to witness the women who linger in the hallway and whisper in each other’s ears and suddenly go quiet the minute someone walks by them. Gossip not only causes problems, but leads to a great amount of miscommunication as well.
Sadly though, there are individuals that simply enjoy and make it a must to gossip in their daily work life. I, in particular, avoid these things. My purpose of going to the office is to work. And it shouldn’t be any of my business what is said about an individual, myself, etc… If I maintain a good relationship with my superiors and aim to always be honest about my work, then I really don’t have to worry about it.
We will always find someone whose purpose in life is to only make problems for others, especially in the workplace. In my opinion, it occurs more often amongst females. I, for once, would like to be part of an honest group of professional employees who just come to work in order to ‘work’. However, since I have begun my career, I have also found that in some way or another, problems occur.
There were always silly misunderstandings but the intention was always to harm the other. Let me give you some live examples that my friends were part of at one point in their lives.
A male friend of mine was seated in a meeting with three girls. There was a presentation featured in the meeting and the presenter was a lovely young lady presenting it. Once she was done and left the room, the three girls turned to the male employee and said out of the blue ‘you know she had a botched plastic surgery recently.”
He blinked in surprise and told himself that he really didn’t see anything wrong with her face. However, the girls kept going on and on that she had a surgery done and it went really bad and that her face was uneven.
Why would you share that piece of information with someone you don’t even know? What added value is it to your life if her surgery had gone bad?
As I was writing this article, our editor in chief pointed out to me that men can get worse than women when it comes to gossip, and that it entirely depends on the gender ratio in the company as well as sector of your company. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion; everyone generalizes based on their own experiences and exposure. It’s true that men share facts as a general thing but women seem to always twist it into a more creative front than anyone else.
I know I’m generalizing and not everyone’s like that but it was worth pointing out from the things I’ve seen. There are so many examples and personal experiences I can share but then I’ll never finish this article. I would love to write more on this and even have the readers share the absurd stories that they’ve been a part of. I look forward to reading them.
Fatma (Fay), Emirati girl, with an experience in Corporate Communications and CSR. She is passionate about anything that is traditional and Emirati. In her free time she loves to watch Japanese anime, read manga, and play videogames. Spas are not the only thing that relaxes her, but cooking as well.
Fay’s columns observe work-life experiences and balance. A lot of her articles are based on first-hand personal experiences and issues she has seen or been part of. She loves to observe her surroundings, and watch how people handle different situations they’ve been put in.Also, she is trying to balance the art of staying positive at work and helping her peers understand that not everything should be a problem. With her writings she hopes to make a difference and make people more observant of the little problems in life, or work that hasn’t escalated to a catastrophe. It’s the little things that matters.