Here We Start – Issue #45

Iman Ben Chaibah (@ImanBenChaibah)

Iman Ben Chaibah (@ImanBenChaibah)

Iman Ben Chaibah, founder of Sail Publishing, a digital publishing house for online magazines and ebooks, and editor in chief of the Emirati Sail Magazine, an online magazine about community and culture written in English by Emirati columnists. Iman is a multi award winner in digital publishing, entrepreneurship, and literature. Iman has also completed the Leadership Strategies in Magazine Media Course in Yale University. Besides her work in publishing, she also lectures in Canadian University in Dubai.
Iman Ben Chaibah (@ImanBenChaibah)

With publishing our 45th issue, which is our December issue for year 2013, we have so much to celebrate here in the UAE. As the case with every December, our country is festively filled with our beloved flags everywhere, be it on our homes, in the malls, or on the streets. Such over joyous demonstration of our love for our country only grows our love for our UAE even more and instills further patriotism in us. The country that gave us so much yet no matter how much we try to give back, we barely give back any.

Artwork by Fatma AlHashemi (@F_Fotography)

Artwork by Fatma AlHashemi (@F_Fotography)

On a parallel note, as we all know, just few days ago we got the great news we’ve all been waiting so long for, the final announcement of the winning city to host the World Expo 2020. The final shortlisted cities were: Izmir from Turkey, Sao Paolo from Brazil, Ekaterinburg from Russia, and of course, Dubai from the UAE. Our great leaders sought the great opportunity in hosting such a prestigious event and submitted a hosting bid to the responsible committee (BIE) to get the chance to host it in Dubai on year 2020. After months of thorough hard work from the assigned team by our country’s leadership, and with the massive awareness campaigns that led the entire UAE nation supporting Dubai’s bid and hoping beyond hope to win the bid, the announcement was finally made on the 27th of November to declare Dubai as the winning city for the World Expo 2020. This announcement was not cheered for by our leaders only, but by the entire nation filled, with pride and joy in belonging to such a great country under such visionary leadership. The joy extended to the entire region, having Dubai as the first city in the entire MENA hosting this prestigious event.

In light of the anticipation of Expo 2020, Sail eMagazine hosted a writing competition for the best article written to explain Expo 2020 and Dubai’s hosting bid to win the expo. After evaluating all the entries by the assigned committee from Sail, we are pleased to announce the winner name today. Congratulations to Shehla AlAshkar! You can read her article by clicking here.

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Artwork by Fatma AlHashemi (@F_Fotography)

As always, our team is constantly growing with new members. For this month we have 3 new members:

  • A columnist: Salma Bin Faqqas, an aspiring 17 years old chemical engineering student that took a leap of faith into the unknown where she found out what she is truly capable of becoming. She believes that people too weak to pursue their own dreams will always find a way to discourage hers. An official addict to positivity and spreading joy. Through her column: ”To a better tomorrow” she focuses on common problems found in our society and psychologically analyses them. It also gives simple solutions to the raised issues in order to make the community a better place to live in.
  • An illustrator: Hayat AlHassan is a sixteen-year-old Emarati who is always seeking to figure out her purpose in this life. Through art, she aims to express herself and send her message to the world. Her passion and enthusiasm for cameras and photography motivates her to observe, discover and capture the beauty of little things and rare special moments. Lastly, she hopes to inspire the world with a moment that has yet to be captured.
  • An illustrator: Marwa Fadhel is a young Emirati with a third eye, obsessed with anything artistic. Media student at Zayed University, currently specializing in visual communications bachelor degree. Looks up to rise the art culture in the UAE. Marwah also has a passion of reading as she believes that both reading and art carry messages but are expressed differently.

And now, Issue #45 – December 2013 in brief:

Enjoy our reads, and don’t forget to check out our illustrations by our creative team: Anood AlMulla, Fatma AlHashemi, Hayat AlHassan, Maha Bin Fares, and Marwa Fadhel, .

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Warm regards,
Iman Ben Chaibah
Editor in Chief

Sail Competition’s Winning Article – Dubai Expo 2020

The winning article was written by Shehla AlAshkar

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Artwork by Fatma AlHashemi (@F_Fotography)

World Expos have been hailed as the mother of festivals for the global community to take part in, as well as showcase economic, social and cultural transformations. This mega event takes place every 5 years and cheers up millions of visitors for a period of 6 months. It has been consistently taking place since 1851, the historical year when the Great Exhibition inaugurated EXPOs in the city of London.

In the global scenario, the Expo has been celebrated with the aspiration to reinforce global connection and rejoice cultural diversity. It stages various innovations, technological wonders, and ultimately shares pride in the progress of global economy ensuring an enriched quality of life in the world population. As this event takes place once every five years; it is a meeting ground for millions of visitors from different parts of the world. The participation of various nations, international organizations, as well as businesses delights the visitors with exhibitions, pavilions and cultural events conducted by hundreds of nations.

Benefits of Hosting The Expo

Hosting an Expo stands to be a dream turning into a reality for any hosting country/city, where it brings the world together for a common goal. The hosting nation is immensely benefitted from the quantitative figures to the qualitative values. The benefits include economic add-ons, cultural interaction, reinforced international relations, exchange of ideas, nation’s progress, technological innovation, and of course, a refined future. In short, Expos serve as means of economic, social and cultural growth for the hosting city or nation, leaving a lasting legacy of diplomacy.

Dubai Expo2020 Bid – ‘Connecting Minds, Creating the Future’

Dubai and the whole of the UAE are thrilled for winning the bid to host the World Expo 2020, where it would get the opportunity to work towards exhibiting its economic, social and cultural achievements to the global community. It aspires to connect people from different nations and create an exchange platform to offer the benefits to the future generations within the UAE and the rest of the world. As the World Expo is known to be a promising mega event that attracts a large number of international visitors, this culturally diversified city, very much known for its hospitality and generosity, rightfully justified its candidature in the bid. Dubai’s winning the bid is a historical marking as World Expo has never been hosted in Middle East ever before.

‘Connecting Minds, Creating the Future’ is the captivating theme of Dubai’s bid, which addresses building partnerships for an enriched economy and a better future. The bid theme very well reflects the spirit of the UAE in uniting people across the world for a shared mission. The theme stands firm on three pillars that reveal the concrete concerns of the UAE for its better economical standard in the past, present, as well as in future. The pillars are: Mobility, Sustainability and Opportunity.

As is known, Mobility plays the key role in growth and prosperity for any region. The UAE takes pride in being a connecting point between many nations and facilitating easy accessibility of ideas, goods, and services. In addition to that, the venue proposed for hosting the expo 2020 is strategically located at a relatively close distance to each of Dubai International Airport, Al Maktoum International Airport, and Abu Dhabi International Airport, which would make it convenient for both the participants and the visitors of Expo.

The subtheme, Sustainability, addresses the requirement of innovation in conservation and successful management of both energy and water. They too play a major part in the economic development.

Dubai Expo 2020 interconnections portray a new array of opportunities that would enrich the livelihood of people in Dubai and thereby, accelerate economic growth and prosperity of the global population.

How Did Dubai Deserve to Win The Bid for Hosting Expo 2020?

It has been recognized globally that about 200 nationalities live in Dubai with different cultural backgrounds. This cosmopolitan hub, being well known for its hospitality and diplomacy, offers a warm welcome to a large number of nations that comes together for a common purpose.

Dubai is a city known to have the richest trade and transport hubs connecting the world. This is an attractive call towards hosting an event like World Expo to facilitate accessibility to the neighboring nations. This element indeed proves that Dubai deserved hosting Expo 2020.

Needless to say, the UAE has been a home for people speaking different languages, following different cultures and coming from varied social backgrounds. It has been a source of innovation and transformation that gave a good makeover to people’s living standards.  Therefore, Dubai will pride the UAE and be the best host of the World Expo assuring a better tomorrow.

The UAE Flag At Its Best

AlAnoud AlMadhi (@aam_alanoud )

Column: Beyond Inspiration
Founder of @BetweenTheSips -a social media initiative that moderates social conversations. Alanoud’s passion is public speaking and designing infographics, reading and researching.
Through “Beyond Inspiration”, Alanoud aims to share personal experiences, struggles, and aha moments that can spark a flame within the reader to reach their full potential.

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Article in brief: The author highlights that raising the flag on our homes is not a new trend, and shares a relevant personal story about her grandfather.

Artwork by Marwa Fadhel (@ElMeem_Artistry)

Artwork by Marwa Fadhel (@ElMeem_Artistry)

The sense of pride we have as Emiratis for our country is very unique. I believe this is mainly a result of the great love we bear for our leaders. We grew up feeling the care and love our leaders have bestowed upon us, and that rendered us more loyal, loving, and respectful to them, the UAE, and all that symbolizes it.

Several initiatives launched to express such love and patriotism; most of which revived through social media. An example of that is the recent National Day trend on having the UAE flag fly atop every home in the UAE.

What many don’t know about this initiative is that it is not really “recent”. Many people long time ago had the UAE flag proudly fluttering on the mast they had at the roof of their homes at all times. My grandfather –God rest his soul- was one of them.

When my father took us to my grandfather’s house, I once asked him while staring at the fluttering flag in the house’s sky “Dad, why does grandpa have our flag on his house?” My father looked at me and smiled, then said, “How about you ask him yourself?” I was 10 years old at the time.

Unfortunately, some houses would have the flag atop too long that its color fades, or its edges get eaten up by the strong wind, but the flag on my grandfather’s was always intact, and that was something I also wondered about.

My grandfather was a formidable man. Kids wouldn’t dare talk to him, but I was too curious to be scared to ask.

He was sitting on his usual couch, like a king on his throne, watching the news so intensely. I approached him and asked “Grandpa.. You have the flag on the roof. Why?” It was unexpected that he actually muted the TV and looked at me. But he didn’t say anything. I repeated “Why do we put our flag on the house?” He asked me firmly “Do you love the UAE?” It was a strange question but I answered, “Yes.” He stared at me for a few seconds then said, “That’s not enough”. Then he raised the volume of the news and continued watching while leaving me in greater wonder.

Artwork by Hayat AlHassan (@HayatAlH)

Artwork by Hayat AlHassan (@HayatAlH)

It was usual for us kids to stay the night at our grandfather’s house. We loved playing football in the big backyard. So, the next day, I woke up and started playing.

It wasn’t too long until I saw my grandfather come in through the gate with a bag in his hand. “Hey, kid!” he called out on me, “come here”. I came closer to him, kissed his hand as I usually do because I couldn’t reach his head, and stared at the bag with curiosity. He opened it, and there was the UAE flag, folded. Then he grabbed my hand and took me to the roof.

I saw the flag up close. It was really big. I told my grandfather the flag looked in good condition and couldn’t see why we needed to replace it with a new one. So he took the new flag out and held it next to the one on the mast to show me the difference. I saw that the colors on the latter started to fade. As he was putting up the new flag, with the sun shining in his eyes, he told me it was never enough to just love our country, but we must also show that love, and make the effort to do so.

Although an Emirati, my grandfather wasn’t even born or raised in the UAE; however, the patriotism I saw in him, through his devotion, hard work, and intense talk he’d share about the love, loyalty, and respect to the UAE was like no other. There is a magic about being an Emirati, the kind that enchants you with love and utmost loyalty and respect, and surely, the charm of that magic never fails to extend to anyone who lives on this land.

May God protect our great leaders, and may our flag stay rising up high, at its best, in this great land.

Let Your Children Learn More About UAE

Ayesha AlJanahi (@_AyeshaAlJanahi)

Ayesha AlJanahi (@_AyeshaAlJanahi)

Column: The First Years Last Forever
A loving mother of a son who has changed her life and put it into perspective. Ayesha is a senior social media specialist, a Global Leader for young children in the Arab region, and a writer in few Arabic publications. Her column is written in collaboration with the Arabian Child organization, and offers inspiration and an in-depth exploration of early childhood development.
Ayesha AlJanahi (@_AyeshaAlJanahi)

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Article in brief: Getting children involved in most of the UAE activities and events and making them aware of their traditions and heritage to instill in them a patriotism that will last for lifetime. 

Artwork by Hayat AlHassan (@HayatAlH)

Artwork by Hayat AlHassan (@HayatAlH)

“He who does not know his past cannot make the best of his present and future, for it is from the past that we learn.” His Highness Sheikh Zayed Bin Sultan Al Nahyan is the late President of the UAE, May God rest his soul.

Children understand the significance of the National Day in the UAE, which is celebrated on the 2nd of December each year, because of their enjoyment to watch the fireworks, giant flags, and hear the national anthem that is played to reflect the feeling of loyalty and dignity for the country. But do all children know about the UAE history, and how Sheikh Zayed devoted his life to provide his people a better life? Are they aware of the current significant events that take place today in the UAE like the UAE Flag Day and Expo2020 that will have a great impact on UAE’s global image? And are children aware of their history and heritage?

“Future generations will be living in a world that is very different from that to which we are accustomed to. It is essential that we prepare ourselves and our children for that new world.” said Sheikh Zayed. Preschool children soak up bits of knowledge from everyday involvement with their parents and surroundings. The time between birth and age of six is a time of growth and learning unparalleled to any in a later life. The four-year-old child continues learning about the environment through playing and imitating adults which shapes their own personality to approach the world.

While my four year old son was listening to the UAE presidential guard song, he focused on the repeated lyrics that stressed on the phrase “God; then our nation; then our president.” It really grabbed his attention and he started asking me, Mom, who is the UAE president?” and proudly I stated Sheikh Khalifa bin Zayed Al Nahyan”. “Roll back the tape mom, let me hear that part again” he insisted.

Here I started explaining that the Flag Day falls on the 3rd of November, the day of President Shaikh Khalifa Bin Zayed Al Nahyan’s accession as President of the UAE. I highlighted general vital facts about my beloved country the UAE. What is there, what makes the UAE nationals appreciate the leaders and make them tremendously proud to be Emiratis in words that suit his speaking patterns. It’s never too early to keep children aware of the country’s activities and important events that take place regularly since they learn more quickly during their early years than at any other time in their life.

The importance of what our children learn at home and through their relationship with their parents form a strong base of all that comes later. The most rapid stage in a child’s development occurs in their first 6 years of life and here we can play the teacher role to instill in them the patriotism. Children can learn the educational subjects perfectly at school but they’ll never be taught how to be patriotic since that kind of loyalty germinates at first from home.

Children, boys in particular, between the ages of six to eight have different preferences about fictional superheroes like Spiderman, Batman, The Hulk, and Iron Man. Parents can familiarize children about the occupation of the UAE three islands Abu Mousa, the Greater and Lesser Tunbs which is a concern for most of the UAE nationals. Sadly, some of the UAE adolescents are not aware of that part of the UAE’s history. Moreover, some parents don’t want their children to be different from others so they tend to get them so involved with fictional superheroes. But we do have UAE heroes; like most of our grandmothers who tolerated a hard life before the formation of the UAE, and some of the UAE nationals who died as martyrs for their loyalty to the country. Children have to be educated about the history of the country in order to be fully aware of how much suffering our ancestors had gone through in the past and that will make them understand what patriotism is all about.

Instead of exposing children only to fictional characters, we should also familiarize them with some of the Emirati courageous models like the late Shiekh Zayed bin Sultan Al Nahyan who served as President of the United Arab Emirates since the formation of the Federation on the 2nd of December 1971.

Get your children involved in raising the UAE flag up high and encourage them to participate in festivities to introduce them to the UAE traditions and heritage. Enable your children to sail through the UAE history, and instill in them a love and patriosim that will last for lifetime.

Written in collaboration with Arabian Child organization. Visit www.arabianchild.org for more information about early childhood education in the United Arab Emirates.

Those Who Support You and Those Who Tear You Down

Alia Al Hazami (@AliaAlHazami)

Alia Al Hazami (@AliaAlHazami)

Column: Hidden Promises
Alia is an AUS student double majoring in International Studies and English literature. She is also the author of Alatash fictional novel. Her main goal is to make a change and empower the youth. Her column is meant to help the younger generations deal with tough situations. It was given that title as hidden promises is what us teenagers often believe; false promises.
Alia Al Hazami (@AliaAlHazami)

Article in brief: Almost everyone has a dream, and almost everyone works as hard as they can just to see them turn into reality. 

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I once was that person who wanted to turn her dreams into something real. The person who wouldn’t let anything stop her from getting what she wants.  I’ve been working on a book for quite some time and I can proudly say that I am now the author of the published book ‘Alatash’

My journey hasn’t been the hardest journey out there but it wasn’t easy either. I’ve been in an inner war for a good time and to be completely honest, I haven’t conquered it yet and it’s all because of them. Yes them! Throughout my life, I’ve been surrounded by two groups of people: the evil fairies and the good fairies.

The evil fairies are the people I shouldn’t have let get to me. They’re the ones who broke me down and made me feel inferior. I was set to believe that I wasn’t good enough and that I’ll never make it, and sadly, I listened to them which made my self esteem disappear into nothingness. If it wasn’t for them and my superfluous thoughts, I would’ve achieved my dreams a long time ago.

The good fairies are the people I should’ve listened to. They consist of my family, friends and supporters. Those magnificent magical creatures are the reason I am where I am; they keep me going. They never doubted me for a second and they always believed in me. They made me feel like I mattered, like I was on to something, they made my dream attainable.

Like many people, I made the silly mistake of caring about what the former group had to say. Going through this journey, if I’ve learned anything at all, then it’s that people will always want to see you fail, it’s your choice to acknowledge them or not.

Now, just because you’re being criticized, it doesn’t mean that people want to tear you apart, on the contrary, it might mean that they actually care and want you to go further in life. Constructive criticism is sent your way for the sake of improvement. Keep in mind that people who give you comments that may seem mean at the time only want you to be better at what you do. The way I see it, they are the people whom you should cherish as they aren’t afraid to spill the truth.

My advice to you is to consider constructive criticism and to work on it, leaving hate behind. The hate you receive is only derived by jealousy. The envious green monster blinds humans causing in the uttering of harsh words. People only send harmful words when they’re upset as they didn’t achieve what you did, so why bother?

At the end of the day, they can reach your point of success but they’re too lazy to work for it. So, just keep your head high and believe that the unachievable is achievable as long as you surround yourself with people who make you feel good and as long as you work hard enough to accomplish it!

It Is Okay To Cut Out The People Who Weigh You Down

Alwid Lootah (@AlwidLootah)

Column: Lost in Reverie
Alwid is a young lady who aims to become the change she wants to see in this world by spreading positivity and leading youth towards the road of unlimited possibilities. She recently founded her own website hearmyeche.com through which she aims to become the voice of youth and share unrecognized talents. Her column “Lost in reverie” is a place where she allows her thoughts and emotions to flow and a place where she can hopefully create a change.

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Article in brief: The writer states that it is rather important to let go of people who weigh you down and surround yourself with positive circle of friends.

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They say one of the best ways to reach success is to surround yourself with innovative people who share the same goals as you. The same goes with happiness; in order to reach that happy state, one must be surrounded with positive people.

The people we are surrounded by have a huge impact on who we are and who we become, and as much as we think the ones around us won’t affect us, they do! We slowly begin to use the same words they use, act the same way they do, and eventually we turn into them without even realizing it.

You’ll notice how a group of friends speak similarly or how two close friends weirdly look alike; that’s the thing with friendship, each friend is influenced by one another in terms of style, behavior, and much more.

It’s a really great feeling when you notice how different you become when surrounded by people who support your goals, respect your opinion, and love you unconditionally. You become more open to the good things in life, more enthusiastic and more hopeful.

I remember myself being influenced by bad friends, and then I realized that it is okay to cut out the people who weigh you down. Yes, you’re not forced to befriend anyone who isn’t good for you, be kind to all but trust a few. If you feel that someone has a rather negative impact on you, let him or her go, on good terms of course.

It is okay to put yourself first, that’s not called being selfish but called being reasonable. Make the right choices for yourself and don’t deny that you can change according to the people around you.

The right people are the ones that you are not constantly trying to impress but the people who love you for who you are. They are not the people who let you down, but the people who meet your expectations as friends. Not the people who crush your spirit, but the ones who encourage you and support your dreams.

At this stage of my life, I meet all sorts of individuals, but I try my best to be selective of my friends. That might sound extremely protective, but I think it is rather necessary and especially in a society like ours where people often judge a person depending on the people around him or her.

When you make the essential cuts in your life, that’s when you become in control of who you are and who you become. You’ll reach that point where you are satisfied by your lifestyle and that’s when you will become so much happier.

So if you are surrounded by people who are good for you, hold on to them. On the other hand, if you’re not around the right circle of friends, let go of them, there are so many good people that would have a positive impact on you, people who won’t weigh you down.

The Benefits of Cracking A Smile

Budoor Al Yousuf (@BAlYousuf)

Budoor Al Yousuf (@BAlYousuf)

Budoor takes a unique look at the world around her. She applies a sense of the mystical to everyday happenstance and turns it on its head. The result is her column: “Mental Pondering”.
With a background in communications, her passion for writing is driven by the need to voice her thoughts. Budoor also hold an eMBA in innovation and Entrepreneurship, other than writing, her interests include reading and traveling.
Budoor Al Yousuf (@BAlYousuf)

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Article in brief:  Does a person have the ability to control his or her own happiness? How much does a person’s mood affect their happiness? Is there a way to improve one’s mood? And increase one’s happiness?

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The idiom “crack a smile” is more useful than one might think. Paul Ekman and his colleagues, who have studied facial expressions of emotions and have linked specific emotions to the movement of specific facial muscles, say that forcing a smile can help improve a person’s mood!

According to the University of California, Riverside researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky says the percentage of capacity for happiness that is within a person’s power to change is 40%.

Despite the common belief, happiness is contagious. Like a virus, the more a person is surrounded by happy people the better is the person’s mood. Better mood is also known to help in concentrating, getting higher income, boosting creativity, and bettering the immune system.

Boosting one’s mood and hence feeling happier may sound like a difficult task; however there are some simple methods a person can follow to help feel better.

One of those methods is to train your brain to recognize the good things using “The 3 good things” concept, in which you daily record 3 good things in a journal. The good things don’t have to be major; they can be as simple as finding a good parking spot, waking up feeling fresh, or having a good cup of tea. When trying to think of the good things that happen the brain will automatically start picking up things unconsciously, hence improving one’s mood.

Feeling good is also linked to how much a person feels satisfied with their accomplishments. These accomplishments don’t have to be big; they can be simple like reading a book or learning a new hobby. For example, setting a reading target at the beginning of the year and tracking it, as the year progresses, the progress in reaching the target will give a sense of satisfaction. Listing down things to learn or a hobby to pick up can help increase a person’s moral; when crossing things off the list or practicing the new hobby the sense of accomplishment increases drastically.

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Dictionary:

  • crack a smile: to grin; to smile.

 Reference:

  • Biswas-Diener, Robert, and Todd Kashdan. “What happy people do differently.” http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201306/what-happy-people-do-differently (accessed November 15, 2013).
  • Wikimedia Foundation. “Mood.” Wikipedia. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mood_(psychology)#Smiling (accessed November 15, 2013).

Know More About Youself

Mustafa Abbas (@MustafaAbbas)

Mustafa Abbas (@MustafaAbbas)

Mustafa is an award-winning film-maker whose short films have screened in local festivals such as Dubai International Film Festival and the Gulf Film Festival, as well as international film festivals including the prestigious Cannes Film Festival. Currently he is working on numerous projects both within and outside of UAE. Through his bi-monthly column “Notes of The Night”, he ponders upon different matters of our daily lives.
Mustafa Abbas (@MustafaAbbas)

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Article in brief: Mustafa Abbas discusses the importance of self-growth and improvement.

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“The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival.” – Aristotle

It’s strange the way it works; it’s easier to see from an outside point of view; it’s also easier to see the outside layer. We can accept truths about people we are not emotionally involved with, however dark or negative. We can pinpoint their flaws much easier than our own. Our eyes show us what’s in front of us; they show us the world. They show us everything as far as outer layers are concerned, but we can’t see ourselves. We can’t even struggle to see ourselves because it’s not physically possible. A mirror, however, will show us how our hair looks, how our shirt fits, etc. It will show us everything on the outer layer.

When speaking or dealing with another human being, we can study their body language, tone of voice, and behavior. We can come to a conclusion about their attitude regarding a specific situation or their outlook on life in a general sense. We cannot do this with ourselves without a conscious effort.

My understanding is that the way to improve is awareness. The more one knows him or herself the more they are able to better themselves and know about the world and how to get it to react accordingly. Naturally, it is easier to accept and understand without emotion. This is why sometimes in certain situations we understand other people more than they understand themselves. Not because we know them better, but because emotion has not contaminated our judgment. Whether someone loves the person and it’s a sensitive matter or whether negative feelings dictate and come to an unfair conclusion.

Aside from consciously looking into ourselves, it is also extremely important to listen. Listening gives us the outside point of view about us and ultimately helps us improve. We must take this in with a few key points: don’t be afraid to learn or to grow, appreciate feedback, welcome change, have a good attitude, and learn to love in a general sense.

   “I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen,” –Ernest Hemingway

I believe so many people believe they are better human beings than they actually are. This is how they are “able to live with themselves” as we say or sometimes wonder. For those people out there who are genuinely good and kind, either they feel they are not good enough or not good at all. Few are those‎ who are both good and intelligent. For only those have found the correct balance and strive to improve as people and grow intellectually.

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” –Gandhi

Moose Out.

Children’s “Mini Theft” and How to Manage It

Salma Bin Faqqas (@SalmaOA_)

Salma Bin Faqqas, an aspiring 17 years old chemical engineering student that took a leap of faith into the unknown where she found out what she is truly capable of becoming. She believes that people too weak to pursue their own dreams will always find a way to discourage hers. An official addict to positivity and spreading joy. Through her column: "To a better tomorrow" she focuses on common problems found in our society and psychologically analyses them. It also gives simple solutions to the raised issues in order to make the community a better place to live in.

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Article in brief:  Many parents are blaming themselves for their children’s inappropriate behavior even though most of them can be fixed with a little bit of care and attention. Here a light will be shed on the main causes and effects of stealing, one of the most familiar disproportionate acts going on among children.

Artwork by Anood AlMulla (@AnoodAlMulla_)

Artwork by Anood AlMulla (@AnoodAlMulla_)

Raising children is one of the toughest jobs that a lot of people face, for they are not only helping their children develop certain behaviors, but are establishing some principles that will guide them throughout their lives. Being a parent is not an easy task, it is a permanent job with great results in the long run. Even though parents try their best to do their job to the fullest, sometimes their children get used to some behaviors that might seem to disappoint their parents and make them look like they are not trying hard enough.

Some children tend to enjoy exploring and trying new things on their own way. Although such curiosity has many advantages as it is a sign of the intellectual growth of the children, and an assurance of the improvement in the level of perception that they have about what is going on around them. Sometimes, this curiosity leads them to try things that are not always the right things to do, just to know the outcome of the behavior such as lying, swearing, and stealing.

Children who steal from ages 4-10 do so for many different reasons. To start with, some of them are in the stage of their life where they cannot differentiate between what is theirs and what isn’t. Others do it as a symbolic compensation for the lack of parental love, attention, and respect. Sometimes, the motive of this robbery is the parent’s exaggeration in protecting things, whether they are expensive or cheap. So the kid becomes driven by curiosity and desire to explore and know the reason behind such protection.

Artwork by Marwa Fadhel (@ElMeem_Artistry)

Artwork by Marwa Fadhel (@ElMeem_Artistry)

There are certainly more reasons but those are the most common ones in my opinion. If no one takes action on such behavior, it might become the child’s future, and affect their personality for a long time. If a child gets used to such a bad behavior developed on his own or through the environment that raises him, people may start avoiding him; he will become less productive, and start to believe: “Why should I work hard to get something when I could just steal it?” Eventually, he will start losing his trust towards people, including himself; he will lose his self-confidence, and might start getting involved in larger crimes like bank robberies.

Taking actions and trying to help the child overcome such behavior must come as a priority before it’s too late. If you find out that your child stole something, or participated in an inappropriate behavior, take them aside, and make it clear that you will not tolerate such behavior and that stealing is wrong and unacceptable. Talk to them kindly, and try to find out the reasons behind their behavior. Give him more attention and love. Make sure you don’t embarrass him in front of others because that would make him do it again and again to defy what you’ve said and challenge your authority.

Raise your children with love and give them the freedom to talk to you about whatever it is that they are doing, without being afraid of your reaction. Remember you are not only teaching them the right and wrong, but you are also guiding them to live their lives in the right way.