Here We Start – Awarded The UAE’s Digital Publisher Entrepreneurs

Iman Ben Chaibah (@ImanBenChaibah)

Iman Ben Chaibah (@ImanBenChaibah)

Iman Ben Chaibah, founder of Sail Publishing, a digital publishing house for online magazines and ebooks, and editor in chief of the Emirati Sail Magazine, an online magazine about community and culture written in English by Emirati columnists. Iman is a multi award winner in digital publishing, entrepreneurship, and literature. Iman has also completed the Leadership Strategies in Magazine Media Course in Yale University. Besides her work in publishing, she also lectures in Canadian University in Dubai.
Iman Ben Chaibah (@ImanBenChaibah)

First of all, we are very proud to announce that Sail has won the UAE’s “Young Digital Publishing Entrepreneur Award” for the year 2014 from the British Council. The judging criteria were one of the toughest we’ve gone through between the awards we’ve previously applied to, and it went in depth in our digital publishing experience and learning. Even after we were shortlisted, we still had a thorough interview by the awards jury, which was composed of Her Excellency Sheika Bodour Al Qasimi, the Founder of Kalimat publication Group and Matthew Cowdery, Middle East Gross Sales Manager for Hachette UK Ltd.

This is an international award and the other winners for this year are from China, Brazil, South Africa, Russia, Columbia, and Spain. All the winners will be heading to the UK for a tour in the digital industry there to exchange knowledge and expertise, and to gain further insights into the industry.

Sail wouldn’t be where it is if it wasn’t for the amazing team that stands behind it, and if it wasn’t for our amazing readers and the community’s support. So I thank you all from the bottom of my heart!

On a separate note, as you know, we’ve just hosted our 4th year anniversary celebration last month. It was a great success and beautiful celebration of what Sail has accomplished so far between our readers & supporters. Click on the image here to go to our Facebook picture album page to view all the pictures taken in the event.

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For those who have missed the event and would like to get a copy of the special printed issue, you can find it in:

  • Hugo Café in Palm Strip Jumeira
  • The Archive in Safa Park
  • Pavilion Downtown

Let us know if you couldn’t find it in any of those locations so we restock it there, and tell us where else would you like to find the magazine. You can also request to have more copies for your offices as some have already requested.

During March we had some great media coverage about the anniversary and about the award we won, below are some of the links:

And now to our issue #49 – April 2014 in brief:

Enjoy our reads, and don’t forget to check out our illustrations by our creative team: Anood AlMulla, Dana Al Attar, Hayat AlHassan, Marwa Fadhel, and Maryam Zainal.

To keep up with our monthly-published issues and to know about any of our coming events, make sure you register with us by clicking here

Help us spread the word about the magazine and share the articles with your friends!

Warm regards,
Iman Ben Chaibah
Editor in Chief

How To Overcome Your Misery

Alia Al Hazami (@AliaAlHazami)

Alia Al Hazami (@AliaAlHazami)

Column: Hidden Promises
Alia is an AUS student double majoring in International Studies and English literature. She is also the author of Alatash fictional novel. Her main goal is to make a change and empower the youth. Her column is meant to help the younger generations deal with tough situations. It was given that title as hidden promises is what us teenagers often believe; false promises.
Alia Al Hazami (@AliaAlHazami)

Article in brief: We usually let our demons get the best of us instead of conquering them.

Artwork by Dana AlAttar (@DanaAlAttar)

Artwork by Dana AlAttar (@DanaAlAttar)

Everyone goes through ups and downs and at some point, they feel abandoned and forsaken. What’s upsetting about it all is that at such situations, they tend to push people away when they try to help, and instead, isolate themselves even more.

We, human beings, are bound to be destructed by affection as feelings usually blind and occupy our thoughts, effecting our decisions. No matter how hard we try to deny it, emotions can at times get the better of us. This is especially true for teenagers as they go through phases where they feel mistreated and lost; and it’s only natural!

At that certain age, hormones rage and teens simply feel like things never go their way. They face too much emotional drama and distress to the extent where they can barely differentiate between what’s real and what’s going in their heads.

What I’ve learned is that instead of trying to bury these feelings deep down inside, we have to do our best to embrace our misery instead of pushing it away.

Yes, I am aware that embracing your misery sounds too dark, however, it’s the only way to move on. We need to accept the things that we cannot change and sadly, getting into a state of sorrow is one of the things that we can’t control. What most of us refuse to comprehend is that we’re only harming ourselves by believing that it will pass on its own without seeking help.

Whatever darkness may possess your soul at the time will only disappear when you put the effort in making a change. At the end of the day, moving on is a choice. If you decide to trap yourself in denial and lock yourself away, things will continue to get worse.

The first step to moving on is confrontation. Face your inner demons, state your issues, make sure they know that they cannot play with you and they simply cannot be your downfall. Ensure that you tell them off by proving to them that you aren’t diluted enough to believe that the same way they easily entered your life, they’ll magically disappear.

The second step is to count your blessings. As simple as it may sound, acknowledging what you have and realizing all the senses of joy you are currently overlooking will make you feel better, even if it was for a little while.

We usually take things for granted and hardly appreciate life. The sad thing is, we tend to ignore everything we have been blessed with the moment something bad happens to us. We only come to realize our blessings when we’ve lost them all.

The third step is to have the wisdom and to know the difference between ignoring something that hurts you and harming yourself. Personally, I believe that not sharing what’s affecting you is the biggest form of self-harm; it doesn’t always have to be physical.

I recently came across this Christian prayer called “the serenity prayer”:

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.”

I’m currently living off of this prayer. It’s giving me hope and helping me have faith to know that things will change.

Make it a goal to be happy and construct a new lifestyle for yourself in which you always face your fears, problems and whatever is bothering you. For myself, I recite the previously mentioned prayer repeatedly every time I feel down and it actually works! So read self-reflective books and positive quotes; for when you’re blue, they can definitely ignite more vibrant colors.

Find your own comfort and remember that joy can come in the smallest and most unexpected forms imaginable. Also, let people in as they can console you and be the warriors who save you from your demons.

To My Teenage Readers

Alwid Lootah (@AlwidLootah)

Column: Lost in Reverie
Alwid is a young lady who aims to become the change she wants to see in this world by spreading positivity and leading youth towards the road of unlimited possibilities. She recently founded her own website hearmyeche.com through which she aims to become the voice of youth and share unrecognized talents. Her column “Lost in reverie” is a place where she allows her thoughts and emotions to flow and a place where she can hopefully create a change.

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Article in brief: The author writes to her teenage readers, expressing how being a teenager feels like and encouraging youth to start now and achieve their dreams.

Artwork by Hayat AlHassan (@HayatAlH)

Artwork by Hayat AlHassan (@HayatAlH)

This one is for my teenage readers..

Teenage years can be for some the most unstable years of ones life and I know that from experience. It’s a time when everyone around you expects so much from you, yet you just can’t figure out what you want or who you are.

At times, you feel like you’re hanging by a thread and you just want to give up. Thoughts like “I’ll never be good enough” or “I’ll never be happy” flood your mind and they usually approach you at a moment of self-doubt; a moment when you feel like you’re hitting rock bottom.

You are lost between your daydreams and the wobbly reality. You bury yourself in a book or among the characters of your favorite TV show and this is when the comparing begins. You compare yourself to them, you compare your sorrow to their joy, and you fail to realize that this is nothing but a script written for your own amusement.

Not every day is a good one and not every moment is a happy one. You know it; well, at least your brain does. You know that it’s only a matter of time and that everything happens for a reason, but your heart says otherwise. Your heart replaces your brain and you begin to think with your feelings rather than your logic.

Your raging emotions are your enemy and your brain is the weapon to use against those emotions. Note that you’re the only one in control of yourself and the only one responsible for your actions. Yes, your parents will guide you when you need it the most but you’ll never achieve anything living in the shadow of others.

You’ll reach that state of mind when you’re certain of what you want; it will take so much time and it will be one heck of a ride but you’ll eventually reach it. You’ll know who you are as you climb your way up high, as you get up during a lazy day and do something that makes you happy. It’s the thing that makes you happy, the things that take your breath away, and the things that you are passionate about that define who you are.

Don’t worry about being misunderstood because at times like these, you won’t be able to express yourself and the words that escape your mouth won’t always be the words that are carved in your heart. Yes, teenage years are exhausting but trust me, it’s the time that you’ll be able to achieve the most in your life.

Nowadays, success knows no age and the younger you are, the higher potential you’ll have. Ideas will be knocking on your brain at all times and you’ll have more energy than you’ll ever have in your entire life so use it wisely. This very moment is the youngest you’ll ever be. How do you spend your youth dear teenager?

The Emotion Cycle

Budoor Al Yousuf (@BAlYousuf)

Budoor Al Yousuf (@BAlYousuf)

Budoor takes a unique look at the world around her. She applies a sense of the mystical to everyday happenstance and turns it on its head. The result is her column: “Mental Pondering”.
With a background in communications, her passion for writing is driven by the need to voice her thoughts. Budoor also hold an eMBA in innovation and Entrepreneurship, other than writing, her interests include reading and traveling.
Budoor Al Yousuf (@BAlYousuf)

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Article in brief: How are feelings towards a situation created? Do thoughts provoke feelings and behaviors towards situations or do situations dictate feelings and behaviors? 

Newton’s Law of Motion dictates that “for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction”, that same law is also true for feelings as “for every feeling, there is an equal or opposite behavior”. ‘The Behavior Cycle’ (also known as The Cognitive Behavior Cycle) suggests that behaviors, feelings and thoughts are all connected in a loop cycle.

Artwork by Maryam Zainal (@Maryam_Zainal)

Artwork by Maryam Zainal (@Maryam_Zainal)

It is believed that people’s behavior in a situation comes from self-discipline; if a person is in control of their emotions, then they are more capable of controlling their behavior in most situations. However, behavior is mostly a combination of not only self-discipline and control, but also feelings.

Most people blame external events for the way they feel; they blame the weather for feeling gloomy, they blame the driving on the road for their bad mood, however, feelings are also mostly generated by thoughts. Perhaps that day when it was dark outside and caused someone to feel sad, it wasn’t the weather that made them feel sad but the thoughts implanted in them with regards to dark days? Isn’t it funny how people originally from the Gulf region love dark days but people from the west who live in the gulf almost automatically feel gloomy when it is dark outside?

This is better explained by the ABC rule by psychologist Albert Ellis:

  • A – Activating Event: Something happens in the environment around you.
  • B – Beliefs: You hold a belief about the event or situation.
  • C – Consequence: You have an emotional response to your belief.

Overcoming feelings towards a specific event or situation isn’t easy, but starts with these simple steps:

  • Identify the exact thoughts
  • Challenge the thoughts
  • Take small steps to gradually overcome the thoughts

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Dictionary:

  • Behavior: the action or reaction of any material under given circumstances
  • Cycle: any complete round or series of occurrences that repeats

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References:

Detecting Liars

Salma Bin Faqqas (@SalmaOA_)

Salma Bin Faqqas, an aspiring 17 years old chemical engineering student that took a leap of faith into the unknown where she found out what she is truly capable of becoming. She believes that people too weak to pursue their own dreams will always find a way to discourage hers. An official addict to positivity and spreading joy. Through her column: "To a better tomorrow" she focuses on common problems found in our society and psychologically analyses them. It also gives simple solutions to the raised issues in order to make the community a better place to live in.

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Article in brief: The subconscious part of our minds control everything occurring to us involuntarily. When someone hides the truth, his subconscious mind shows exactly the opposite through his body language. What should you look for to know if the person in front you is lying?

Artwork by Anoud Al Mulla (@AnoodAlMulla_)

Artwork by Anoud Al Mulla (@AnoodAlMulla_)

Let’s just assume you ran into a friend who had a frown drawn on his face yet told you that he was very happy? Would you believe him? Of course not, because there is a mismatch between what he is saying and the body signals he sent to you.

Body language is a language of dialogue where two people who speak completely different languages can communicate with one another without many difficulties through each other’s references and facial expressions. It is very important because it helps us differentiate whether the person in front of us is happy, angry, or sad. Most importantly, it helps us discover whether the person we are talking to is telling the truth or just a bunch of lies.

Messages are usually transmitted from a person to his surroundings by his words, voice tone, and body language. Therefore, detecting lies is not that hard when you understand the body language of the person sitting in front of you.

To know whether the person is lying or not, you have to check three main things: His eyes, mouth, and replies.

  1. Eyes:

Liars, no matter how good they are, have no ability to make direct eye contact with the person they are lying to because the unconscious parts of the brain tries to prevent the deception happening. Also, according to Neuro-lingustic programming (NLP), each direction their eyes move to is accompanied by a different function in the brain. If the person’s eyes are looking more to the top left, it means that he is inventing an image in his mind, but if they were considered to be looking to the top right it means that they are retrieving a specific image in mind.

  1. Mouth:

As an attempt of the mind to accommodate lying, liars usually put their hands over their mouths as if they are trying to prevent it from happening. Nibbling on the lips is also another sign of lying; liars unconsciously bite their lips to prevent themselves from speaking. This indicates that there is an internal conflict between two voices inside of the person: one that says it is better that you be or become silent and another that pushes the person to speak what’s on their minds whether lies or not.

  1. Replies:

When asked a question, discomfort and management of the body away from the asker will usually come along with the liar’s reply. Watch for the wily delay in answering your questions: honest answers come quickly from the memory while lies require a quick mental review of things they will utter in order to avoid conflict and invent new details.

If someone shows one of those characteristics while having a conversation with you, it doesn’t necessarily mean he is a liar. His behavior should be compared with his normal state as much as possible. The more you know someone and his way of thinking, the easier it will be for you to detect when he is moving away from reality. Some of the signs mentioned above also coincide with shy people who might not be lying at all.

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  • Resource used: http://www.westsidetoastmasters.com/resources/book_of_body_language/chap7.html