Many of us are chained in aspects of our lives that make us unhappy, and we do it for all the wrong reasons.
How often do we hear people complain about their job? How often do we hear people unhappy in their marriages? How often do we hear people ranting about their unhappiness?
I have always wondered why the same people keep complaining about the same thing over and over again (I am guilty of this sometimes). There seems to be a pattern though with some people where they never seem to snap out of the miserable situation they are in. And most of the time it’s because people settle for what they think they deserve. Meaning that they CAN improve their situations but they choose not to.
Generally speaking, people are terrified of change so they rarely tend to leave the comfort of their job, home, or marriage; whilst coming up with numerous reasons to their complacency. Several times this happens because we do not know our own self worth or have low self esteem, making us think that what we have is what we deserve.
“I rather spend every Sunday of my life hanging off a cliff to rescue someone than spend one more time sitting in a pew next to hypocrites that talk about what they will do to better themselves and the world when they get around to it.” ― Shannon L. Alder
Why does this happen then? Why do we keep complaining when the solution is right in front of us?
People are unwilling to accept the challenge of change because they don’t want to leave the stability they are so used to; they have become numb in the movement of their own lives. Some can’t because fear overwhelms them and paralyzes their ability to take action. If you assess the situation you are in, is their anything in your life that makes you unhappy? Anything at all? If there is, then you need to have the courage to change it. There are numerous opportunities out there; all you need to do is look. You might alter things in your life and still be unhappy. Then change it again, until you find yourself in a situation where you are personally satisfied and fulfilled with all aspects of your life.
Never settle for mediocre just because it’s the easiest or fastest option. I do acknowledge that adjusting your life to new opportunities is difficult but that’s the beauty of it. After you see the fruits of your labor will you admit that such a transformation was the best thing that ever happened.
If you don’t know what you want, you’ll never find it.
If you don’t know what you deserve, you’ll always settle for less.
You will wander aimlessly, uncomfortably numb in your comfort zone, wondering how life has ended up here.
― Rob Liano
Shamma holds a Masters Degree in Human Rights and a BA in International Affairs. She currently works as an instructor at Zayed University. Having volunteered with people with disability for more than 10 years, she devotes her career and free time to work closely with vulnerable groups to create a visible impact in society. Having interests in philosophy, human psyche, sociology, and literature her column “12 Lessons” will focus on issues that we face as a part of the trial and error process that is life.
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