Article in brief: The author stresses on the fact that people’s friends represent who they are.
“Chemistry” is not just a term, but actual chemicals attracted to one another that bring people close. Not necessarily in the romantic sense, but also in friendship and the people we choose to have around. It is also possible that when people lose touch after a certain point for no particular reason, it’s because the chemicals did not match. This does not mean anything negative. People are just different, and there are all kinds of people in this world.
Naturally, there are many factors that make people spend time with each other: similarities, likes and dislikes, and sometimes just plain old good rapport. Their dialogues complement each other, and they blend in, so to speak. Familiarity, too, can play a big part. And in most cases, these things all come together. And we “get along” as we say.
But it is possible that it goes beyond choice, isn’t it?
When we meet a person for the first time, we want to know what they are like, and who they are to decide a number of things, including getting to know them more, how much time we’d like to give them if at all, and whether or not it’s going to be a long-lasting friendship or relationship. Meeting people, especially for extroverts, is one of the biggest joys of life, so these points or concerns are often raised.
“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” –Anais Nin
However, there are unique situations where people are caught up in circles they don’t necessarily belong to – still, who the person’s closest two or three friends are will give us a clearer picture.
In my opinion, who our families are will say a little about us, but I believe who our friends are will say a whole lot more. After all, our friends don’t just represent us, but our values and morals too.
As I mentioned earlier, people spend time based on their similarities, but what if there is something greater than we can see or touch? Something deeper within us that makes some people connect and others disconnect? Something that goes beyond our conscious and outward similarities?
“Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are.” -Arabic proverb